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2010– goals, updates, and ttc

2010 is here in full force. I’m working on turning over a new leaf and doing the things that I’ve been wanting but not putting effort towards.

I won’t bore yall with my extensive list for 2010, but I’m happy that things are going pretty well (I know it’s only 6 days in..). I am a little worried though about whether we will stay in this rhythm once classes start back up for me, but for today, I’m going to stay in the present.

Today, I went through my drawer and realized I’m in bad need of some new clothes, once again. Last year, I threw out damn near my entire wardrobe because NOTHING fit and I looked horrible stuffed into my clothes. Especially working with teenagers, wearing too tight clothes is NOT a good thing when you’re curvy. Now here it is a year later and I wish I had more of those things left because I need something to wear :(. At least this is an excuse to revamp the closet– believe it or not, I’m not a typical woman. I really dislike clothes shopping and never know what to buy. A buys all my clothes for me; she has a really good eye for stuff that looks good on me.

On the home front, LA is getting better with sleeping in her crib. In fact, last night she went to sleep with barely a whimper. I stood by her door in case she was just playing with me and was going to wail, but she didnt! She had a rough 4 days previously but we discovered it was because we were giving her yogurt and it was hurting her stomach. Poor thing whined and cried for hours. As soon as we stopped the yogurt and gave her some Gripe water, she was immediately soothed. I don’t know if she’s just too young for yogurt or if she is sensitive to lactose (though she can eat lowfat yogurt fine and her formula is milk-based). I’ll have to ask her pediatrician about that.

Update on me: I went back and forth about whether I should blog about TTC because I really don’t want to set myself up for heartbreak again when I get all the well-wishes, convince myself that I’m pregnant, only to be greeted with negative hpt after negative hpt (see the side bar for acronyms). But on the other hand, what is a blog if it’s not honest? I don’t have it all together at every moment of the day, so why only present the happy picture of what I’m going through? So that’s where I am right now with blogging.

A few months ago, I went to a new RE in the state where I work and he said I was a prime candidate for IVF. The problem is that my insurance won’t cover it, though they are MUCH better than my previous insurance in TX. However, they will cover IUI and the associated medicine and such associated with it. So my dilemma is whether to get a permanent job in this state because IVF is part of mandatory coverage (right now, I’m long term temp so I don’t have benefits through them. We live in the neighboring state, so I have insurance through A’s job there). Or if I should pursue getting my tubes unblocked and then go the IUI route, despite the additional fears of that not working or having an ectopic pregnancy. Right now, I’m leaning more towards the second option, so I’ll keep you posted on that.

It looks like I’m going to be back in the TTC saddle again, after a year break. I used to wonder how people could stand to TTC for 3+ years. As I enter my third year (though I wasn’t TTC the entire time), I VERY much get it now!


7 comments on “2010– goals, updates, and ttc

  1. Meredith
    January 6, 2010

    Wow- congrats on your need for new clothes!

    On IVF versus unblocking the tube and going with IUI- sadly I think about this from the tax advantage/disadvantage perspective. As a long term temp, I can assume that you are paying state taxes to the state you’re working in versus the state in which you reside. If you already having to pay the state taxes on your salary, it seems like it would make sense to go ahead and get a full time job with benefits in the state with expanded coverage- even if you don’t choose to use the IVF coverage right away. If you received your own benefits, A. would also have reduced taxable income (by current federal tax law, she has to pay taxes on the value of your policy). Eliminating these additional taxes essentially gives you two some extra money every month for ttc copays, any daycare expenses you might currently have, etc.


  2. lyn
    January 6, 2010

    I’ve been wondering about your next steps on TTC and am glad you’ll keep us (at least somewhat) posted. The combination of patchwork laws for same-sex couples, different coverage laws state to state (and ridiculous tax implications meredith mentions), this must be overwhelming. Not to mention fitting in TTC when you already have one baby. And school. And life. Good luck.


  3. liberationtheory
    January 6, 2010

    @merideth, you bring up some very valid points that I haven’t considered. Since A is/was an accountant, I’m going to run those by her since tax season is upon us. I am definitely looking for a permanent position, but since I’m contracted here until April, I wanted to start now.

    @lyn, Thank you for continuing to follow my progress. I swear I don’t know if there will ever be enough hours in the day. One of my NY goals is to get more than 4 hours of sleep this year. I survived on that and much less this semster between work, school, and motherhood.


  4. rachelbk
    January 6, 2010

    I am so happy you’re going to try for a little sibling for LA! I hope your ttc efforts pay off SOON!
    I was thinking the same thing about all those clothes I threw away, but right now I don’t want to spend the money on a new wardrobe, since I still want to lose a lot more weight. I hit up the Goodwill now and then.

    On the yogurt thing, did you check if the kind LA eats has artificial sweeteners? Sometimes those don’t agree with little tummies. Farty LOVES his yogurt, he goes to the fridge and gets his own can, and brings it to me with a spoon. If he could open it himself, he would just dive in without waiting for me, lol!


  5. poetrystruth
    January 7, 2010

    Happy New Year! I hope 2010 is a great year for you and yours!

    When you coming back here? LOL!


  6. Gia
    January 11, 2010

    2010 is yours girl GO GET EM!!!!!!
    miss you!!!!


  7. Jerseygur
    January 15, 2010

    Just wanted to say hello and I wish you much success on your journey to becoming pregnant.


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