love, life, and the pursuit of liberation
talking about hair of course.
*I posted this on a from a hair messageboard I frequent.*
I’m at a crossroads about what to do with my hair—stay natural or relax it.
I’ve been natural for almost 15 years and before that, I was a 2-3 times a year relaxer kind of person. I didn’t know what to do with my hair and my mom wasn’t that attentive to it. So I went from looking like Rudy Huxtable as a child (length and thickness) to hair that was broken and ear length by the time I did the BC my freshman year in college. I also vowed I wouldn’t go back to the perm then because of horrible scab burns.
Fast forward 15 years and I have too many things going on in my life to worry about my hair. I’m a mom, a grad student, and I regularly work 55 hour days a week. My hair is bra strap length and I want to keep it long. Here are my pros and cons about natural versus relaxed.
• It’s cost-effective.
• I love my hair’s texture and natural softness.
• I hated how straw-like it was when relaxed.
• I could hypothetically wash and condition often (though my hair HATES co-washing and I don’t have time for all that).
• I probably won’t self-relax and don’t want to add another expense.
• I’ve never learned to care for my hair when I was relaxed and it will be a whole new world for me.
• I can’t wash and go anymore because of excessive tangles and dryness
• Tangle and Breakage-city from depending on buns and my hair being pretty fragile in it’s natural state. We know how vulnerable our hair is at each bend of the curl.
• Dry- city: I’ve tried numerous moisture regimens and my hair thrives when straightened—I think it’s because of how the moisture is better distributed.
• I hate the way protective styles look- I already look like I’m in high school and I think protective styles look juvenile on me. Plus, it’s horrendous detangling and such to take them down. Buns are eating up my hair line
I’ve started doing blow-outs and flat-ironing this summer and my hair does pretty well with that. I just hate having to depend on so much heat to straighten it out and it’s time consuming to go through all that every other week. I know that relaxing is permanent “damage” but honestly, I don’t care about that part. I’m soooo over the “good=natural and bad=relaxed” mentality of some natural people.
So what would you do????????