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the deed is done

The hair saga that is.

I went ahead and relaxed it. I was tired of all the back and forth, and realized that a huge motivation not to relax was fear. Fear about what others would think, mostly. So I said eff it. I’m doing this for me and for my convenience. And I like the way straight hair looks. And curly hair and kinky hair and locked hair and short hair.. you get the point– I don’t see hair in a hierarchy of beauty.

So yesterday, A and I went off to Sally’s to get the necessary supplies. I didn’t want to spend a fortune in a beauty salon because I knew they would upcharge me for hair length and the fact that it was “virgin” hair. A used to self-relax and I trust her with my hair. We got home, she did the deed and I was so happy with how easy it was to manage afterwards. Usually it takes almost an hour to blow dry it. Now, 10 minutes. I ran a flat-iron through it after (though I realize I didn’t need to) and it took all of 5 minutes on medium heat. Detangling? What’s that!

Now my hair challenge is to learn more about caring for relaxed hair because I know I’m going to need to do some extra things to keep it healthy, like using protein treatments, babying my ends and edges even more, etc. But I’m sooooo excited with the way it turned out. Still bouncy and still retaining my length. We shall see what the coming months bring!

You can check out my hair pics here.


8 comments on “the deed is done

  1. Corey
    October 31, 2010

    It looks awesome! (I don’t know anything about relaxed hair except that I would be praying the whole time, Please God do not let it burn and fall out.. which is what I did when I was bleaching and dying Jess’s hair pink..)


    • liberationtheory
      October 31, 2010

      LMAO! Yes, that can happen too and I had flashbacks to the scene in “What’s love got to do with it” when Tina’s hair was coming out at the sink.

      I’m sure you know as a parent of brown girls all the politics of hair. Bu dammit, this is MY hair and like India.Arie says I am not my hair!


  2. Taheerah
    November 1, 2010

    Looks very nice Lib.

    I know what you mean when you speak of caring about what others will think.

    I have been natural for 8 years and the last 3 have been a struggle between wanting to flat iron or relaxing. So I cut it twice in the past 3 years to alleviate that “pressure”. I was scared that I would be seen as a traitor to the natural hair community.

    Today I am loced and feel pretty good about my decision. What happens next, only time will tell.


  3. Autumn
    November 1, 2010

    “We shall see what the coming months bring!”

    Don’t forget to post pics!


  4. PoetrysTruth
    November 1, 2010

    I’m sad to see the naps go, but I still luvs you…do what you need to do.


  5. Minister of Style
    November 2, 2010

    oh em gee! You got some length there sis, and it is beautiful! Like Poetry, I am sad to see the napps transition but I do understand and support your new direction. Now we gotta get together for real again soon, I need to see this in person, LOL.


  6. Chi-Chi
    November 3, 2010

    Oh my gosh!!! You look so different! Glad you made a decision that you are happy with! You look great.


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