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random observation

Yesterday, a coworker was chiding me for getting a second pepsi. I told her that I only had 2 weeks left until I have to give it up again b/c of try #13. She said that I deserved a perseverance award, but to me I can’t imagine NOT trying again.

It hit me today. Are other women on as many ART* tries as I am? I know there are women who have been trying the “old-fashioned way” for a number of years, but right now I can’t think of another blogger friend who’s had as many IUI/IVF tries. This is not a badge I want.



6 comments on “random observation

  1. Isa
    February 8, 2011

    Not me, but I know there are some who took a very long time to get pregnant (I’m thinking of S and Tbean over at alittleturtle.wordpress.com). But 13 months IS a long time. I think it will make it more meaningful when you do get pregnant (in about three weeks, by my count) to look back at how much work you did to get there.


  2. halfadozen
    February 8, 2011

    You are not alone… I have had, probably 18 or 20 medicated, assisted tries including one IVF on this journey for a second child. And that is over a 3 year period. And when we were trying the first time it was 12 times. And you are right, we just keep going because we have no other choice. Although I have to admit, I am starting to imagine other choices. I am tired and so are my ovaries…


    • liberationtheory
      February 9, 2011

      I have been following your blog for a while and find it uncanny how similar our tries have been. I hope that this year is the year for us!


  3. Pomegranate
    February 9, 2011

    I didn’t have a lot of IUIs, but I had 2 failed IVF cycles and finally succeeded on the FET cycle.

    In addition to the bloggers mentioned/posted above, Fern and Olive have been trying for over 3 years and have 33 cycles (1o IUIs) under their belt according to their timeline. They just had CD 1 of their IVF cycle. Nicole finally got her BFP after years of trying (dunno how many IUIs and can’t access her blog through work censors, but it was the 2nd IVF). The blogger at Out with Infertility is not a queer blogger, but she finally got her BFP on her 5th IVF cycle. There are so many others, but those are a few off the top of my head.

    So yes, there are others out there who remain persistent. I think you go as far as your spirit and finances will let you go. No medals or badges to walk away with, just a baby if you get lucky.


    • liberationtheory
      February 9, 2011

      Thanks so much for those blogs. I’m definitely checking them out. You are right that this isn’t a “reward” for those that are able to continue. Frankly, it sucks. What I meant by “badge” was that it was a sort of label (self-ascribed) that I hadn’t thought fit me until that moment.


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