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The Whole Truth, Nothing but the Truth, So Help Me God

When you look at the truth, you have to look at the whole truth. One thing that my life transition is allowing me to do is to look at the truth of who I am, not just the pretty but not the so great.

As I’ve been processing my impending divorce (I’m sure you’ve been able to read between the lines), I’ve been thinking about the difference personality differences and character flaws. To me, personality differences are those attributes that aren’t inherently harmful or unhealthy; they are simply quirks that may or may not be aligned with another’s core values. On the other hand, character flaws are those parts of you that may cause to your self and others. For example, picking your nose or leaving the seat up may be a personality difference. Passive aggressiveness and self-martyrdom are character flaws.

It’s so easy to point out everyone else’s flaws when deciding whether to forgive them. I’m realizing that part of forgiveness means admitting my own flaws and then maybe making that next step to be grateful for the lessons they bring instead of harboring shame and resentment.

Maybe, just maybe, if I could learn to forgive myself, I could learn to forgive others.

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4 comments on “The Whole Truth, Nothing but the Truth, So Help Me God

  1. Funke
    April 3, 2013

    HI Lib, this is my first visit to your blog in a long time. I’m sad to hear of the recent developments. I am going through the possible end of a relationship as well and your last few posts resonated so deep within that I had to leave a comment. I wish you strength and peace at this time but above all, I wish you and I the grace to forgive ourselves and eventually, others.


    • liberationtheory
      April 3, 2013

      Thank you for this comment. I sincerely appreciate it, and I too wish all of us on this journey continued strength, peace, and grace.


  2. Reflections of Autumn
    April 20, 2013

    Lately, every time a justification for unforgiveness comes to mind, I am reminded of my many transgressions and how many times I have been forgiven. I remember a time not long ago where I felt as if I had to relive every transgression, every bit of pain and every ounce of hopelessness that I experienced in the past. This kept me from appreciating the forgiveness that I had been granted and did not deserve. It also kept me from forgiving others. Now I try to see the person from where they stand and where I once was.


    • liberationtheory
      April 20, 2013

      I have never ever thought to think about it from the perspective of how I’ve been forgiven. Wow, that’s powerful.


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